Every relationship has going through hard time in one way or another, where sometimes you find yourself in the wrong side, yet the way to approach the peace must be in the good manner otherwise it will take time to settle.
Not everyone has the character to stay calm and say the right words, especially if there is an issue within relationships that needs to be calm.
If you are on the wrong side or rude to your partner you might know how terrible and aftertaste of a fight is. By the way, you don't have to fall for it, otherwise you will lose a chance to build a happy life with a person you love because of foolish pride. Finding the best approach and say sorry to your partner in the right manner will be the best choice.
Put yourself in your partner's shoes
The only way to understand what your partner is going through is by putting yourself in his/her shoes.
Here are three common questions you need to ask yourself:
- Why does she feel upset?
- What did you do to make her feel that way?
- What can you do to help her recover from this situation?
Imagine what you would like to hear from your partner after a fight. Also, if the cause of your dispute is complicated then find the right time you will compromise the situation.
Your partner might not be ready for the conversation which is normal, simply let her know you love her and it was never your goal to hurt her.
To say sorry to someone who is mad at you is the hardest word to say. Most people find this word as a showoff of weakness or begging but the truth it is remain that "it's an indicator of a wise and caring person".
Admit your are in the wrong side
It is okay to admit you are the cause of the conflicts or ask for forgiveness when argument arouse. And make sure you pick the right words to use don't accompany them with conditions. This is the right time to use your communication skills.
Apart from love, relationship is only have peace if there is the right communications on both parties.
Promise to change and be ready to change
Everyone don't want to go through the samething he/she have been gone through, you need to be ready to change if the matter of your fight is important for you. Ask your partner , what he/she would like you to change in your relationships, without interrupting and commenting but listening to her/him carefully.
Your partner might require more time to think over the situation, so give her/she time if needed.
Saying sorry is not enough
Don't make your partner to feel sorry as is just an excuses word. Saying sorry is not enough, you need to be honest and clear when apologizing to someone you love.
Tell your partner how you realize the mistake that you did, that you shouldn't have done it in that way, and you really care for her/him.
Show your readiness to work on your reactions and ask if he/she is ready to give you a chance to fix it.
Like I have state it before, different people need feel differently, he/she might need more time to process a situation. The fact you understand your wrong doing and you are ready to move forward doesn't mean he/she feels the same. Provide her with an opportunity to express how he/she is feeling, even the most destructive ones, like anger and resentment.
When Annely is angry at me for my mistake, I always give her more days to return in her normally mood. I normally reduce ask her questions in vocal communication and use text message as a way of communicate instead.
Use a letter to say sorry
If you are not in the right status to discuss the conflict in person, then you should try to say sorry through letter.
Letter maybe easy for you fully express how you are feeling about the conflicts without fear.
The most important thing about apologizing is to show that you understand her feelings and you won't make the same mistake again.
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